Are you available??

What do men want?  I mostly figured it is sex....and 85% I think that is what they want.  They all say they want to be friends, they respect you.......blah, blah, blah.  But basically I don't think men know what they want. Or how to go about getting it and then not be scared of it.  At least when it is sex I know either I want the same thing or they can fuck off because I'm not interested.  You know a friend told me I haven't found anyone yet because I'm either too picky or I don't make myself available. Yes I have come to realize I am picky.....I'm fine with being picky, because I don't deserve just anyone that comes along and thinks I'm gonna be their bitch.  I deserve to treated with honesty, care, consideration and  to be loved.........loved for who I am because who I am is really a great woman to be around, be with.  Now the part about not making myself available, that's one I don't understand.  I'm not hard to talk to or to get along with.  How does a person (woman--me) make themself not available? or avalable? I'm not talking about being married, dating, living with someone.....obvouisly that is unavailable but how is it that I'm unavavailable?? I'm divorced, easy to talk to, up front about things soooo........ Is it a vibe, expression on my face, something I say, what I wear, the way I smell, the way I walk, how I present myself.......what is it exactly?   If someone knows let me know.